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A father. A coach. A man who lost his partner… and is now raising his two children on his own. Johnny Goitia’s life is not easy, but every day filled with responsibilities, he finds space to laugh, to teach, and to simply keep trying to be the best father he can be for his two children.

“My day starts at 6 in the morning,” Johnny says. “I wake up my kids, make their lunch, take them to school, then I go give lessons myself.” From tennis to padel, Johnny’s routine is packed. But at night, at home, everything changes. “It’s something really simple, but when we’re home, I call them into my room and I like to joke around with them on the bed, tickle them, just a lot of laughter. Those are our moments.”

Johnny Goitia

Johnny Goitia

Two years ago, the family was shaken by the loss of Dhayene Goitia, who passed away after a long battle with illness. Even though they lived and fought together with constant hope, her passing left a deep emptiness behind.

Johnny lost his great love, his partner, and best friend, while their children lost their beloved mother. Now, two years later, the memories are what remain intact and they've become a new way to keep Dhayene alive in their hearts. “I try to make sure they don’t dwell on the sad moments. I want them to hold on to the happy memories,” Johnny says. For him personally, the place where he feels closest to Dhayene is on the tennis court. “We were at the court every day. And when I’m fixing rackets at home, I play her favorite songs. I see the smiles come back.” And if he could ask his partner one question today, it would be: “Where are you, and are you okay? Can you give me advice on how to keep giving the same love you gave now that I have to be both mom and dad for our children at the same time?”

As a coach, Johnny believes in the power of sports to teach life lessons. “Tennis is more than just a sport,” he says. “It teaches you life lessons, respect, discipline, pushing yourself, being successful but also learning how to lose and keep moving forward.” Since becoming a father, he says his way of coaching the kids has definitely changed. “I understand much better now what a coach can mean to a child. Adults play a huge role, just like a coach. And now, I’m both.”


The most important lesson he wants to pass on to his children: “Life is beautiful, but it can also be tough. It's up to you whether you suffer through it with sadness or with joy. Those are their late mother’s words, and I’ll keep repeating them.”

Dhaena & D’John

Dhaena & D’John

“Twenty-four hours in a day is not enough,” Johnny says. “But you have to make it work.”
His circle of friends is small, but loyal. “My friends know who they are. Family helps when they can. But I’m not someone who likes to burden people.”


His kids describe him in three words: “Our dad. Our friend. Our coach.”

“My dream is for my kids to earn sports scholarships and for me to be part of that journey as their dad and coach. I know that might mean we’ll need to move abroad to take things to the next level. That would be hard because my heart is with tennis in Aruba.”

D’John

D’John

Dhaena

Dhaena

His message to other dads going through something similar?

“The pain we live with shouldn’t be passed onto our kids. Self-talk is important. Go to the beach, be in nature, find a hobby those are my therapies. Whatever you do, make sure it’s worth something. Don’t fake your smile use it when you’re happy and when you’re not.”

“Life is short,” Johnny says.

“Live it well, showing respect and attention to everyone, even those who are against you. Life is like running a business. If you don’t manage it properly, you’ll go bankrupt.”